Birmingham, 1987
The sun had long slipped behind the old barn at the edge of the farm when little Elsie wandered into her grandfather’s study. She was nine, with a head full of curls and questions that never seemed to run out. Her grandfather, Thomas Whitaker, sat in his favourite chair by the fireplace. A chair as old as his stories, worn at the arms where his late wife used to rest her head on tired evenings.
He looked up from his newspaper, spectacles perched at the tip of his nose. “Come here, Poppet,” he said, patting his knee.
Elsie climbed up, curling into him as she always did. Outside, the wind hummed through the hedgerows. Inside, the warmth of the fire and the scent of fresh hay mixed with the sweet aroma of the tea cooling on the side table.
“Grandad, why do you and Grandma love each other so much?” she asked, voice muffled by his cardigan.
Thomas chuckled softly. “Ah, that’s a big question for a small girl. But you’re ready, aren’t you?”
She nodded, wide-eyed. He stroked her hair while gathering his thoughts, stringing words carefully, for he knew that seeds planted tonight might shape this girl’s life long after he was gone.
“Elsie, do you know what makes you special?”
She shook her head.
“It’s your you-ness,” he said, tapping her nose. “Your individuality. Never forget it. You see, Poppet, life — especially love — is full of twists. People will tell you how to be, what to give up, who to become. But you must always know who you are, before you give yourself to another.”
She frowned, trying to understand. He continued.
“Your grandmother, bless her soul, was a strong woman. Stronger than I ever deserved. When I first met her, she had nothing but her wits and her sewing machine. I had nothing but this old farm. We built everything together, from the house, the garden, and the family. But do you know what made it last?”
She shook her head again.
“Trust. Money. Submission. Love. They dance together like the wind and the wheat outside.”
He took a deep breath, watching the flicker of the fire.
“Trust is the soil, Elsie. Without it, nothing grows. If you lie or cheat, the roots rot. Money, money is the water. Too much or too little, you drown or wither. Always know where your money is, poppet. Learn to earn your own, keep some aside. That’s your rain when the seasons dry up.”
She listened hard, absorbing every word like rain on parched earth.
“Submission — that’s the one people get wrong,” he said, lowering his voice as if sharing a great secret. “It doesn’t mean giving up your voice or your dreams. It means leaning when you need to, standing when you must. Your grandmother submitted to our marriage, but never to losing herself. And that’s what kept me in love all my life.”
Elsie’s brow furrowed. “And love?”
Thomas smiled. “Love is the sun, girl. Warm, bright, but it can burn you if you don’t shelter your heart sometimes. It needs all the other things to make it last.”
He kissed her head.
“One day, you’ll grow up, meet someone, maybe marry, maybe have babies. And when you do, remember: you matter. Your dreams matter. Your voice matters. Never let any man, no matter how good, make you forget your individuality.”
He pointed to an old photo on the mantle. A young woman with dark hair tied back, sleeves rolled, a baby on her hip and a book in her free hand.
“Your grandma nursed your mum right there by that window. She made dinner, sold her quilts, and taught the village girls to sew. She was a mother, a wife, a businesswoman, all in this small farmhouse. She didn’t break. And you won’t either.”
Elsie’s eyes shone, reflecting the dancing flames.
“But it’s hard, Grandad,” she whispered. “I don’t want to break.”
He chuckled, his chest rumbling against her cheek. “No, poppet. You’ll bend, but you’ll never break. Women before you have walked through storms without falling apart. You will thrive not just survive. Thrive in your work, your marriage, your motherhood. That’s my promise.”
They sat in silence for a while, a girl and her grandfather, planting seeds of courage in a small Birmingham farmhouse in the winter of 1987.
Maldives, 2025
Thirty-eight years later, Elsie sat on a whitewashed terrace overlooking the turquoise stretch of the Indian Ocean. A gentle breeze rustled her sundress as she poured herself another cup of tea. Her husband, David, lounged in a hammock nearby, their twin daughters chasing each other down the wooden deck.
She smiled, remembering the warmth of the old farmhouse, the scent of hay and firewood. The memory of her grandfather’s voice was as clear now as it was then.
She had done it. She had trusted wisely, loved fiercely, handled money with care. She’d built her marketing career without giving up her evenings to strangers. She’d raised her girls with the same balance her grandmother had shown her, equal parts nurture and ambition.
The world has changed since 1987. Women could run companies from their laptops, build wealth from side hustles, launch businesses without quitting their 9-5s. But the dance of trust, money, submission and love hadn’t changed. It still needed tending, like the old farm’s wheat fields.
She sipped her tea, watching her daughters giggle. One of them tripped, then picked herself up, hair tangled with sand.
Elsie’s heart swelled with quiet pride. She knew her grandfather was right; storms had come, but she hadn’t broken.
Advice for Modern Day Women
If Thomas Whitaker were alive today, he would stand in the middle of this sunlit terrace and remind every woman reading this:
- Never abandon your individuality.
Marriage, motherhood, or money must never drown your sense of self. Be you – fiercely, fully, always. - Learn how money works.
Save. Invest. Build a business if you wish. You don’t have to quit your 9-5 if you don’t want to. There’s wealth in wisdom and consistency. - Trust wisely.
Trust is earned and nurtured daily. Choose partners who water your dreams, not drain them. - Submission is not weakness.
It is the art of balance; bending when you must, standing tall when you need to. - Love deeply, but don’t lose yourself.
Love is beautiful but can blind you if you forget to check your mirror now and then. - Motherhood is not a prison.
It’s a gift that can sharpen your vision. Like Grandma Whitaker, you can be a mother and a builder of dreams.
Elsie glanced at her phone buzzing on the table — a message from her colleague, Trina, asking how she’d built her side business that now paid for family getaways like this.
She smiled, hearing her grandfather’s voice: Thrive, Poppet. Thrive.
So she typed back, “Start where you are. Learn. Earn. Save. Trust wisely. Don’t lose your ‘you’-ness. You don’t have to quit your day job to build wealth, you just have to begin.”
Your Turn to Thrive
So here you are — maybe a mother, a wife, a young woman with big dreams but a 9-5 that ties you down. Maybe you’re wondering if you can build something more without giving up everything you’ve worked for.
You can.
Women before you have done it — quilting at dawn, working fields at noon, raising children at dusk, and thriving all the while. You can too — only now, you have the internet, digital businesses, and platforms designed to help you grow wealth on your terms.
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Pour yourself a cup of tea, whether you’re in a Birmingham farmhouse or the Maldives, and remember Grandad Whitaker’s promise: You will bend. You will not break. You will thrive.
